A PIOUS WIFE IS YOUR STRONGEST DEFENSE AGAINST SHAYTAAN
Marriage:
Encouragement from a Brother
By
Iftikhar
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When I
started looking for a wife, my only intention was to find a Muslim woman who
could help me become a better Muslim. After praying to Allah many times, I
came to know that a Muslim brother in my area had an unwed sister. I was
told that she was 7 years older than I was, had no college education, and
had minor health problems. Despite this, I arranged for a meeting to discuss
the possibility of marriage. When I met her, I was impressed by her modesty
(she wore a real Hijab that covered everything but her face). She was not
attractive, nor was she rich. However, at the conclusion of our meeting, I
felt comfortable with the fact that she was what I was looking for. After
praying Istikhara, I felt confident that she was right for me. Our
Nikah was performed only a few weeks later.
Oh yeah, this was a Muslim wedding - the kind where the men separated from
the women, we didn't have disco music or belly dancers or any other kind of
kuffar stuff. There might have been one brother who was NOT wearing Sunnah.
We spent most of the time praying, praising Allah, discussing what a great
blessing the responsibility of marriage was, etc. I think the total cost of
the wedding might have been around US$20.00 (we held it in my
brother-in-law's apartment). I had the time of my life!!!
Despite the fact that she is very stubborn and argumentative, she is
one of the best Muslim women a man could ask for. And I am NOT talking about
the way she wakes me up in the middle of the night for tahajjud, the way she
covers her face in public, the way she investigates every action that I do,
the way she will stop talking to me if I don't read the Qur'an or go to the
Masjid every day. I am talking about her fear of Allah and love for the
prophet Muhammad (SAWS).
Not bad for a woman some people called ugly, who has no college
education or money.
I wouldn't trade this woman for anything in the world.
Many times when the discussion of marriage arises, I will hear one
brother after another talking about how beautiful and educated they want
their dream wives to be. Others will talk of love or family/racial pride.
Fools... (with all due respect)
In case some of you are confused as to why I am mentioning all of this
let me tell you what I know (straight up)...
A PIOUS WIFE IS YOUR STRONGEST
DEFENSE AGAINST SHAYTAAN
Now, Marry a woman for whatever reason you want.......
My Dua' is with you all. Salamu Alaikum.
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