true love of the wife
It is the love story between Zainab bint Muhammad (PBUH) and Abo ElAss ibn
Rabee; Zainab is the daughter of the Prophet (PBUH) and her cousin Abu ElAss,
is Khadeejas nephew. He was one of the nobles of Quraysh, and the Prophet
loved him.
One day Abu ElAss went to the Prophet (PBUH) before he had received his
mission of Prophet Hood and said: "I want to marry your eldest
daughter". So the Prophet replied: "I must ask her first". He
went to Zainab and asked her: "Your cousin came to me and he wishes to
marry you, do you accept him as your husband?" Her face turned red with
bashfulness and she smiled.
So Zainab married Abu ElAss, the beginning of a great love story. They had two
children; "Ali" and "Omama".
Then a big problem occurred when Muhammad (PBUH) became a Prophet; he became a
Prophet while Abu ElAss was away from Makkah. Abu ElAss returned to
find his wife a Muslim. When he first came back, his wife said "I have
great news for you". He stood up and left her. Zainab was surprised and
followed him as she said, "My father became a Prophet and I have become a
Muslim". He replied, "Why didn't you tell me first?" Hence a
big problem began between the two; a problem of religion and belief.
She told him, I wasn't going to disbelieve in my father and his message, he is
not a liar, and he is The Honest and Trustworthy. I'm not the only believer;
my mother and my sisters became Muslims, my cousin Ali ibn Abi Taleb became a
Muslim, your cousin Othman ibn Affan became a Muslim, and your friend Abu Bakr
became a Muslim".
He replied, "Well as for me, I don't want people to say he let down his
people and his forefathers to please his wife. And I am not accusing your
father of anything". Then he said "So will you excuse me and
understand?" She replied, "Who will excuse and understand you if I
don't? But I will stay beside you and help you until you reach the truth"
and she kept her word for 20 years.
Abu ElAss remained an unbeliever, and then came the migration. Zainab went to
the Prophet and asked him for the permission to stay with her husband, the
Prophet replied "stay with your husband and children".
Compare this to the wives that refuse to travel with their husbands to their
place of work and prefer to stay with their mothers.
So Zainab stayed in Makkah, until the battle of Badr occurred. Abu ElAss was
to fight in the army of Quraysh against the Muslims. For Zainab, it meant that
her husband will be fighting her father, a time Zainab had always feared. She
kept crying out: Oh Allah, I fear one day the sun may rise and my children
become orphans or I lose my father.
So the battle started, and ended in victory for the Muslims. Abu ElAss was
captured by the Muslims, and news of this reached Makkah. Zainab asked,
"What did my father do?" They told her, "The Muslims won".
So she prayed to Allah, thanking him. Then she asked: "What did my
husband do?" they said: "He was captured" so she said"
I'll send a payment to release him". She didn't own anything of much
value, so she took off her mother's necklace, and sent it with Abu ElAss's
brother to the Prophet.
While the Prophet was sitting, taking payments and releasing captives, he saw
Khadeejas necklace. He held it up and asked: "Whose payment is
this?" They said: Abu ElAss ibn Rabee". He cried and said "This
is Khadeeja's necklace". Then he stood up and said "People, this man
is my in-law, should I release him? And do you accept the return of this
necklace to my daughter?" They answered in unison "Yes, messenger of
Allah".
The Prophet gave the necklace to Abu ElAss and said to him: "Tell Zainab
not to give away Khadeeja's necklace". Then he said Abu ElAss Can we
speak privately?" He took him aside and said "Allah has ordered me
to separate between a Muslim and a disbeliever, so could you return my
daughter to me?" Abu ElAss agreed.
Zainab stood on the gates of Makkah waiting for the arrival of Abu ElAss. When
he finally came he said "I am going away". She asked, "Where
to?" so he said "It is not me who is going, it is you. You are going
to your father; we must separate because you are a Muslim". She implored
him "Will you become a Muslim and come with me?" but he refused.
So Zainab took her son and daughter and traveled to Madinah, and for 6 years
she refused to remarry, hoping that one day Abu ElAss would come.
After 6 years, Abu ElAss was traveling in a caravan from Makkah to Syria.
During the journey, he was intercepted by some of the Prophets
companions. He escaped and asked for Zainabs home. He knocked on her door
shortly before the dawn prayer. She opened the door and asked him Did you
become a Muslim? He whispered No, I come as a fugitive. She implored him once
more Can you become a Muslim? Again his answer was a negative. Do not worry.
she said, Welcome my cousin, welcome, the father of Ali and Omama.
After the Prophet prayed the dawn prayer in congregation with the people, they
heard a voice from the back of the mosque I have freed Abu ElAss ibn
Rabee.
Zainab had granted Abu ElAss freedom. The Prophet asked "Have you
heard what I heard?" they all said "Yes, messenger of Allah".
Zainab said "He is my cousin and the father of my children and I have
freed him so the Prophet stood up and said O people, I declare that
this man was a very good son-in-law, he never broke his promise, and neither
did he tell lies. So if you accept I will return his money back and let him go
and if you refuse its your decision and I will not blame you for it.
The companions agreed We will give him his money so the Prophet said
to Zainab" We have freed the one you have freed O Zainab" then he
went to her and told her "be generous to him, he is your cousin and the
father of your children, but don't let him get near you, he is prohibited for
you She replied "Sure, messenger of Allah, I'll do as you say".
She went in and told Abu ElAss "O Abu ElAss didn't you miss us
at all? Will you be a Muslim and stay with us?" but he refused.
Abu ElAss then took the money and returned to Makkah. Once he returned he
stood up and announced O people here is your money, is there anything
left?" they replied "No Abu ElAss there is nothing left, thanks
a lot" so Abu ElAss said "I testify that there is no God but
Allah, and Mohamed is His Messenger pThen he went back to Madinah and ran
to the Prophet as he said Dear Prophet, you freed me yesterday, and today
I say that I testify there is no god but Allah and you are His messenger.
He asked the Prophet "Will you give me the permission to go back to
Zainab?" The Prophet smiled and said "Come with me"; he took
him to Zainab's house and knocked on her door. The Prophet said "O
Zainab, your cousin came to me and asked if he can return to you". Just
like 20 years before, her face turned red with bashfulness and she smiled.
The strange thing is, a year after this incident, Zainab died. Abu ElAss would
cry so profusely that the people saw the Prophet himself weeping and calming
him down. He would hug their daughter closely and say Remind me of Zaynab. Abu
ElAss would say By Allah, I cant stand life anymore without Zainab". He
died one year after Zainabs death.
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